Queer RelationTips

#12 RelationTips Q&A: Bisexuality and the Ending of a Destructive Marriage

Host Isaac Archuleta sits with our guest who, as an adult, came out as pan/bisexual. Together they explore the complexities of being bisexual in both the straight and gay worlds. They also journey into our guest's experience in an unhealthy marriage that has gone on to affect how she experiences love, sexuality, and what it means to know and trust herself.

TRIGGER WARNING: Trauma is talked about during this episode. At the end of the episode, Isaac gives some helpful remarks when dealing with and/or recovering from trauma.

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#9 RelationTips Q&A: Finding Home and Quitting the Performance - Part 2: The Performer Chart

In our previous episode, we covered the topic of enmeshment and home, helping the guest find their way to an inward home that will root them no matter where they go. In this episode, we take a deep dive into her subconscious to examine why “home” feels so far away and what steps need to be taken to reclaim it. As we converse, you’ll hear referenced the Performer Chart. If you’d like to follow along, visit iAmClinic.org/blog/episode-9/

Some of the episodes in our line up are what we call, RelationTips Q&A's, a safe space for everyday folks to come on the show and talk with a therapist about a problem or topic they are struggling with.

These episodes are intended to highlight queer stories with the hope that others can relate and gain insight into their own journeys.

Guests on these episodes bring vulnerability into the space that allows for a deep, emotional exploration of areas that hit deeply for many queer folks.

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#8 RelationTips Q&A: Finding Home and Quitting the Performance - Part 1

Host Isaac Archuleta sits with his guest who brought a great conundrum to the show, one that many queer people face: how do we live as one integrated being? 

Being a queer person in a professional space, a spiritual person in a gay setting, or even a woman in a man-centered world, integrating all parts of who we are can be quiet the riddle, and the remedy might just surprise you.

 

For our 'RelationTips Q&A’ episodes, our host sits with everyday people to talk about a problem or question they have. Usually, the guest remains anonymous.

 

#7 RelationTips Q&A: Anxiety, Depression, Drag, and the Courage to Build a Chosen Family

For our 'RelationTips Q&A’ episodes, our host sits with everyday people to talk about a problem or question they have. Usually, the guest remains anonymous.

In this episode, Isaac sits with a Denver-based drag queen and talks about the anxiety and depression they have had to navigate for most of their adult life. They take a journey into childhood rejection and adult perseverance and the healing one gains in creating a life filled with love, one they deserved but were never given.

#6 Kevin Garcia - Bad Theology Kills

Host Isaac Archuleta sits with Kevin Garcia, life coach, content creator, queer person of faith, host of the podcast A Tiny Revolution, and author of Bad Theology Kills: Undoing Toxic Belief & Reclaiming Your Spiritual Authority. Their conversation delves into the theological trauma Kevin has experienced and how it affected his idea of himself and what it means to be a sexual being. Kevin allows his vulnerability to take us into his sex life, dating life, and mental health journey.

#5 Matthias Roberts - Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms

Host Isaac Archuleta and Matthias Roberts, counselor and podcast host himself, talk about Roberts' new book,  Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms. They consider the shame the results from purity culture and ask questions one can consider in evaluating the presence of shame in one's own life.

#4 Trey Pearson - Famous Musician Comes Out After Marriage

Host Isaac Archuleta sits with the founder, owner, and lead singer of Everyday Sunday. They consider how his religious beliefs affected his choices growing into adulthood and the eventual ending of his marriage. They also explore what it means to have a sexual orientation, how it affects all parts of one's life, and how an oppressive background can stall love. 

#3 Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers - The Development of Sexual Shame

Host Isaac Archuleta and Dr. Tina Sellers, a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist who holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, and author of Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy. They discuss the way developmental trauma affects sexuality and how it can go on to affect adult sexuality.

#2 RelationTips Q&A: Addiction, Shame, and Living in Authenticity in the Queer Community

For our 'RelationTips Q&A’ episodes, our host sits with everyday people to talk about a problem or question they have. Usually, the guest remains anonymous.

In this episode, Isaac and his guest talk about alcoholism, sobriety, and the difficulties that impose in being a part of the queer community. They also explore the moment his mother tossed his dolls, a metaphorical moment that would symbolize rejection his guest has faced. Hear how his fight to live an honest, authentic life finally took root and the ways rejection still haunts him. 

#1 RealtionTips Q&A: Internalized Homophobia and Its Effects on Our Sex Life

For our 'RelationTips Q&A’ episodes, our host sits with everyday people to talk about a problem or question they have. Usually, the guest remains anonymous.

 

In this episode, Isaac and his guest explore the complexities that happen when our learned shame and internalized homophobia affect our ability to have and enjoy sex with our partner and pleasure ourselves.

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Queer RelationTips is a podcast that aims to give listeners first-hand access to life-changing insights, effective skills, and relational tools by interviews with the queer community’s thought leaders and trendsetters as well as inviting normal, everyday folks who want to share their therapeutic journey with the world.